5. http://peopleoverprofit.com/5-habits-of-exceptionally-likeable-leaders/
5 Habits Of Exceptionally Likeable Leaders:
He looked me in the eye and said, “Dale, you hurt people and you don’t even see it.”
At this point, I was speechless. The details of how people had perceived
my leadership, began to open my eyes to the wake of emotional
destruction I left behind me. And while some of these flaws are
acceptable for the average person, they were deadly for a business owner in my position. Over the next several years, I dove deep into healing. I enrolled in a
$12,000 executive psychotherapist course, had a monthly appointment with
a therapist, read over 15 books on emotional leadership, and made an
immense level of progress over coming months.
“Dale’s entrepreneurial journey is very diverse, but he truly does seem
to have that magic touch in leadership, regardless of the industry.”
-Forbes Editor, Evan Kirkpatrick
1. Complaining breeds disgust in those below you:
How many times have I been told this, read it, wrote it down and taped it the hell up on my wall in front of me, prayed for it, meditated for it and wished for my complaining to cease?
I have done it forever, now I am just going to do it.
"When an employee or subordinate hears you complain about anything,
whether it’s today’s traffic or the deadline you’re struggling to hit,
it places unnecessary weight upon their shoulders and builds contempt in
the hearts of everyone who follows you."
The only thing complaining does is convince other people that you are not in control.
(This is true cause when I complain then I am like pretty much handing over the weight to whoever is around me because it is too much for me to handle for right now and I just need help.However, sometimes people do need help but there are other ways to go about that help and still be the one who is in charge at all times. )
2. Speak to people how they need to hear it, not how you want to say it.
This makes complete sense to me especially when I am in charge of a group of kids, or when I have had to teach older citizens than me here. Especially though when working with people around my age though or maybe even a little bit older, I seem to fall prey to that "baby shit" that people complain and tell me to stop doing but have like this mentality to keep doing. Well, in my therapy I was able to see how I sounded and it was pretty bad lol.. but it was the craziest thing I have ever seen BUT there were no tears like usual and typical of me which my therapist said she had taken note of and is also the reason why I am typing this in now. Like I have a lot of work to do on that, BUT I have noticed that more of the supervisors look at me more now as a leader now because they were asking me to do more than ever before at the center and not only that, I do get tasks done a lot quicker and I don't always have to ask the people around me for help like 40 hours a day! Anyway, I KNOW I was annoying as fuck as a child, but had I have known about this fucking shit going on inside of my head then I could have been able to take medication which would have been monitored even closer. But, my mom does not believe in medication and she didn't want it to hinder my body, or my health, or have a potential to become sterile, etc. it's what had happened to my damn aunt and the meds fucked her up at a early age like around 16 cause she was like going around tearing up phone lines and shit which was freaky af, but anyway, she did become sterile and today, still to this day, it's weird cause even though she was the valedictorian of her school, she LITERALLY never leaves her home for anything. She's not a hoarder, not a drinker or a smoker, not OCD or batshit hyper like me and/or moody like me either. She'll show me her paintings and sometimes my mom too. We are the only ones though cause all the other family members after her mom had died make fun of her - so shekind of just "shuts down" whenever they come around.
3. Thoughtfulness is the most effective version of communication.
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